I'm not talking about clothes. I'm talking about gossip...malicious gossip. Gossip with the intent to undermine/harm a person. Media uses this to boost ratings. I recently watched the documentary on PBS of Walter Winchell, who made a career out of airing dirty laundry, to his gain and to those of others including McCarthy. Interesting documentary.
What is it about dirty laundry that is attractive? Why is it that people gain pleasure in other's misfortunes? My opinion is that when we hear dirty laundry, it touches upon a time within us that we felt humiliated/shamed. Often at those times of humiliation that we felt we did not have the option to do anything about it. It becomes one of our wounds, and when triggered, it is often our wounded child who reacts from this unresolved humiliation. Ironically, often the person inflicting the humiliation is reacting from their wounded child as well. They hurt and want to hurt others (they're reacting as a child remember!) and they want others to know and feel how much they hurt. People hearing the dirty laundry have their wounds triggered and think and feel  Yeah! That's not right! That's terrible! Same thing happened to me! And it feels liberating to share the dirty laundry from the wounded child perspective as the wounded child feels someone is finally speaking up for them. And, thus, they spread the dirty laundry out of being reactionary without discerning the truth of the words. This is one way advertising works. This is how politicians get your vote. This is how wars start and are fought. It is a powerful form of manipulation that works without many people realizing it.
So how do we deal with dirty laundry? If it triggers us, we should reflect on what is in inside of us that is getting triggered. What does it feel like? When have we felt that same feeling before? Do not get discouraged if you cannot figure it out right away. Reflection takes practice. Sometimes these epiphanies come when we least expect it. People may think that they are just fine, and that they do not need to improve, much less reflect on their thoughts and behaviors.. The word evolve needs to replace improve. If we deny, or ignore, our triggers/wounds/unresolved issues, they eventually control us. How? We become easily manipulated by others and our unconscious choices.  Because like it or not, these triggers/wounds are part of ourselves. All of our experiences have made us who we are today. The better we know ourselves, the better choices (and less reactionary choices ) we make for our life, family, community, and the evolvement of the human species.. 

Life has been busy with lots of things. I even took a siesta from my healing work. I just needed time.
Working as a nurse, Covid brought tremendous changes, but something had to happen. The world could not continue on its trajectory and something cataclysmic had to happen to get people’s awareness/attention. Some people got the messages (for it was more than just one), others are still kicking and screaming.
What was some of the messages? Your beliefs, thoughts, words, and choices matter. Why, because we are all connected. We are all ONE. So many things, so many layers and those who choose to continue to distract and/or separate themselves, are becoming more unstable and spiraling downward. You can’t make it through this life alone. Accountability is essential and our society and cultures often take the blame route. Cultures and society won’t change until we do. It does start with the individual for the better we know ourself, the better we can help ourself and others. So basic and so complicated! The many paradoxes of living life. How to handle the paradox? We blend them together. Acknowledge the paradox and then instead of keeping them separated, blend them creatively together. As this is a strategy the 1% know. Keep the masses separated by issues such as Democrat/Republican, vaccination status, race, sex, religion, and the many other issues that we bicker about to keep us going in circles instead of united by both our differences and similarities.
We have the differences in ourselves internally. We have our shadow side, the mother bear that comes out protectively and strikes. The old, deep patterns in ourself from childhood and society that we don’t like, and often many people are unaware of (but continue to project on others subconsciously). And many people cannot and will not “go there”. They are not ready for a multitude of reasons, consciously and unconsciously. They cannot face the truth of their shadow often because they built their whole life around their wounds and belief patterns, often unknowingly and from just surviving life. We all have an element of this. It is not an easy, nor fun job to reflect at times; however, the evolution of the soul and our species demands for us to evolve to survive.
So how do we navigate this? First of all, work on your magnificant self. Although I acknowledge it is challenging to not want to help others, especially those who cause suffering. How do we help others who can’t or won't evolve? Well, that ‘s the heart breaker. Accept them as they are even though you may see the damage caused by their unconsciousness. Pray for them as well as yourself. Ask the angels to send grace. Soooooooo many forms for grace and who am I to say what this person needs as they walk their path here on Earth. You are not necessarily praying for the person to change, but for you to change the what you see and understand. The best present we can give humanity is our own evolution. Be an example. Live your life by example and that is the best testament. As we walk our own path conscious of our beliefs, thoughts, words, and choices, we connect to the best and most conscious part of ourself to where we can make profound differences in our life as well as others.